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26 Oct

The greatest love song for Separation: Music to help you through it

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If you’ve ever broken up with someone, you know there’s no separation without its very own musical soundtrack. This soundtrack will vary according to your state of mind – erratically fluctuating between depression and euphoria at first maybe, but ultimately you’ll find you’re on the road to recovery. For every stage of this separation process, there’s the right sort of music to help you along the way, so below are a few suggestions for music to break up to, music to help you cry and let it all out, and music for a fresh start.

The first stage of separation: Music for saying good-bye

So here you are. It’s been a long time coming, but now the words you’ve been dreading to say or to hear are inevitable: It’s over. It was nice while it lasted, but the time has come to part. As you are probably about to have one of the most difficult conversations of you life, here are a couple of songs to help you set things in motion. It’s the first step in the long process of separation – music says what words cannot, so let a song speak for you: If you want to say good-bye in style and are not afraid of celebrating your love one last time, “Dancing with Tears in my Eyes” by Ultravox is the right song for you. A slightly more sober and sombre approach offer Fleetwood Mac with “Go your own way”, and of course ABBA knew it all when they sang “breaking up is never easy” in their 1976 hit “Knowing Me, Knowing You”.  After all, the theme of separation always featured big in their music.

The second stage of separation: Music for the broken-hearted

The “mourning” period often sets in right after the break-up, especially if you’re not the one who walked away, but it can also take weeks, months and even years for someone to realise what they’ve lost! What you’ll most likely listen to (weather you want to or not) during this particular stage of separation: music that reminds you of happier days, songs you used to listen to with your beloved, that little tune he or she sometimes whistled in the bathroom … and of course this special song which never fails to make you cry, which seems to have been written just for you, full of heartfelt emotion and despair.  For me personally, this will always be “Nothing compares 2 u” by Sinead O’Connor. I don’t even need to suffer from a recent separation for this beautiful music to go straight to my heart! Another contender are Guns ‘n’ Roses – not only with the popular “November Rain” but also with another deeply touching piece on love and loss, “Estranged”.

The third stage of separation: Music for suvivors

Anyways, indulging in your misery for too long is not a healthy thing to do. Yes, you’ve been through a difficult period in your life, but now it’s time to cheer up! The worst is over, so here is what you need for this final stage in the process of separation: music which helps you to regain your self-esteem and optimism. There’s nothing wrong with a hint of melancholy or even a little bit of schadenfreude and lust for revenge – but essentially these songs should be about how you’ve overcome the separation. Music I recommend dearly in this category includes Cher’s rousingly positive “Strong enough” , the classic pick-me-up “I will survive” by Gloria Gaynor, and an all-time favourite of mine, “Yes” by McAlmont and Butler. The unusual and powerful soul voice of McAlmont combined with Bernard Butler’s classic indie guitar sound make you want to jump up and embrace the day and all that’s coming: You know you’ll get over this separation – music can help you!

13 Jul

Soundtrack to meeting up with my first date

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The right tune can sometimes make all the difference between a success and failure when it comes to meeting up and courting. Sometimes chasing is all about manipulating things when you’re meeting up, to get the one you fancy to see you in the right light. We’ve all had those moments where we’ve met up with a friend and suddenly looked at them and thought “hang on.. he/she’s not so bad”. Could be drink, could be a new outfit, could be kind lighting, could be the right love song working its magic!
By the time you wake up the next morning the friendship’s over…. But maybe this meet up was the beginning of a new romance! Here’s the point: You can never plan too much to make a date work out right. The soundtrack you choose when you’re meeting up with someone, can really make a moment more romantic, if you get it right!
What’s more if things are going to happen anyway, you want to make sure that your ‘special song’ is decent one, because chances are your going to have to listen to it a lot over the course of your relationship.
I enjoyed this article: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog. Suggests that with a good love song fresh in our ears as we are meeting up with someone, we’re much more likely to feel romantic about them. I can buy that.
In terms of choosing your songs. This is a good resource: http://www.thebestsongs.net. Its nicely laid out, with links to where to buy the tunes you want. Is got a simple and quality listing for lots of different occasions/meet ups, so you can use it for more than just the first date, indeed it has got suggestions for you’re first meeting, music to make love to all the way up to weddings and beyond….

03 Jul

50 great romantic tunes

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Save The Best For Last, Vanessa Williams: 1991

Happy Together, The Turtles: 1967

Wild Thing, The Troggs: 1966

Unchained Melody, The Righteous Brothers: 1965

I’ll Stand By You, The Pretenders: 1994

Every Little Thing She Does Is Magic, The Police: 1981

I’ll Be There, The Jackson 5: 1970

Best Of My Love , The Emotions: 1977

Three Times A Lady, The Commodores: 1978

Careless Whisper, The Carpenters: 1971

How Deep Is Your Love, The Bee Gees: 1978

Words Of Love, The Beatles: 1964

Eternal Flame, The Bangles: 1988

Roxanne, Sting & The Police: 1978

You Are The Sunshine Of My Life, Stevie Wonder: 1973

I Got You Babe, Sonny & Cher: 1965

Nothing Compares 2 U, Sinead O’Connor: 1990

It Must Have Been Love, Roxette: 1986

You’re In My Heart, Rod Stewart: 1978

First Time Ever I Saw Your Face, Roberta Flack: 1972

Unforgettable, Natalie Cole f/ Nat King Cole: 1991

I’d Do Anything For Love (But I Won’t Do That), Meat Loaf 1993

Let’s Get It On, Marvin Gaye: 1973

Stop To Love, Luther Vandross: 1986

Here And Now, Luther Vandross: 1989

You’re The One That I Want, John Travolta w/ Olivia Newton-John: 1978

Woman, John Lennon: 1981

You Are So Beautiful, Joe Cocker: 1975

That’s The Way Love Goes, Janet Jackson: 1993

Alone, Heart: 1987

I Want You To Want Me, George Michael: 1984

Love Me Tender, Elvis Presley: 1956

Alison, Elvis Costello: 1977

Your Song, Elton John: 1971

Love To Love You Baby, Donna Summer: 1976

Endless Love, Diana Ross & Lionel Richie: 1981

Time After Time, Cyndi Lauper: 1984

I Feel For You, Chaka Khan: 1984

Love Will Keep Us Together, Captain & Tennille: 1975

(Everything I Do) I Do It For You, Bryan Adams: 1991

I’ll Make Love To You, Boyz II Men: 1994

More Than A Feeling, Boston: 1976

Total Eclipse Of The Heart, Bonnie Tyler: 1983

I Can’t Make You Love Me, Bonnie Raitt: 1991

She’s Got A Way, Billy Joel: 1971

You’re The First, The Last, My Everything, Barry White: 1975

You Don’t Bring Me Flowers, Barbra Streisand w/ Neil Diamond: 1979

Always, Atlantic Starr: 1987

I Just Want To Be Your Everything, Andy Gibb: 1977

Let’s Stay Together, Al Green: 1972

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